Type Two - The Mother & Care Taker

Generous, Caring, Demonstrative, People-Pleaser

Empathic, sincere, and warm-hearted, twos are friendly, generous, and self-sacrificing sentimentalists. These are the people-pleasers who mean well, but due to being driven by needing closeness they can slip into flattery and doing things for others for the sole purpose of feeling needed. Twos have problems with possessiveness and acknowledging their own needs.

At their Best they are selfless, altruistic and unconditional.

Examplars

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Princess Diana - Queen of Hearts

Netflix 2020 documentary of recorded confessions by Princess Diana of her suffering and 4 suicide attempts which also indicates what gave rise to her service in world wide charities and conceal her horrendous trials and tribulations of the monarchies exploitation of children. https://micky.com.au/princess-dianas-new-documentary-revealed-suicide-attempts-recorded-in-audiotapes/

Marilyn Monroe

American actress, model and singer was the most popular sex symbol and bombshell of the 1950s and emblem of the sexual revolution that followed. Her films grossed $200 million after spending her childhood in foster homes and factories before appearing on the first issue of Playboy. As Hollywoods' most marketable stars she struggled with addiction and depression and died at age 36 in 1962, ruled as a suicide but there is much more to this story.

Dolly Parton

An American singer, songwriter, multi-instrumentalist, actress, author, businesswoman, and humanitarian, known primarily for her work in country music.

Elizabeth Taylor

Dame Elizabeth Rosemond Taylor DBE was an English-American actress, businesswoman, and humanitarian. She began her career as a child actress in the early 1940s and was one of the most popular stars of classical Hollywood cinema in the 1950s.

Elizabeth Shue

Elisabeth Judson Shue (born October 6, 1963) is an American actress, best known for her roles in the films The Karate Kid (1984), Adventures in Babysitting, Cocktail. Back to the Future and Leaving Las Vegas.

Olivia Newton-John

Dame Olivia Newton-John AC DBE is a British-Australian singer, songwriter, actress, entrepreneur and activist.

John Travolta

John Joseph Travolta's fame came with Welcome Back Kotter in 1970s and Saturday Night Fever and Grease (1978). Then nothing until his role in Pulp Fiction (1994)  "please with sugar on top" Pulp Fiction scene highlights the stark difference between the 8 and the 2. Samuel L Jackson,  Harvey Kietel and Quentin Tarantino, all 8's draws out John Travolta's need for nice in the height of denied trauma.

Grease

Good girl Sandy Olsson and greaser Danny Zuko fell in love over the summer. When they unexpectedly discover they're now in the same high school.

Elvis Presley

Elvis Aaron Presley (January 8, 1935 – August 16, 1977), also known simply as Elvis, was an American singer, musician and actor. He is regarded as one of the most significant cultural icons of the 20th century and is often referred to as the "King of Rock and Roll" or simply "the King".

Monica Lewinsky

American Activist, television personality best known as former White House intern. President Bill Clinton admitted to having an affair with her in 1995-1996 which caused  Clinton's impeachment and later became known as the Clinton-Lewinsky sex scandal.

Lewinsky left the public spotlight to pursue a master's degree in psychology in London and returned to public view as a social activist speaking out against cyberbullying in 2014.

Zoey Deutch

Zoey Francis Thompson Deutch is an American actress and producer. Deutch is a daughter of director Howard Deutch and actress-director Lea Thompson. She gained recognition for her roles in the film Everybody Wants Some!!, Netflix comedy series The Politician, and the Netflix film Set It Up.

Ido Drent

Ido Drent is a South African-born actor working and living in Auckland, New Zealand. He is best known to television audiences as Daniel Potts in the long-running soap opera Shortland Street.

Chrishell Stause

Terrina Chrishell Stause is an American actress and real estate agent. She is known for her role on the Netflix reality show Selling Sunset, along with previous television roles as Amanda Dillon on All My Children and Jordan Ridgeway on Days of Our Lives.

Lisa Bonet

Lilakoi Moon, known professionally as Lisa Bonet, is an American actor and activist. As an actor, Bonet is perhaps best known for work with American actor and comedian Bill Cosby, starring in two of his productions on NBC, The Cosby Show and A Different World, as the unorthodox, free-spirited Denise Huxtable.

Bill Cosby

William Henry Cosby Jr. born July 12, 1937 is an American stand-up comedian, actor, and author who held an active career for over six decades before being convicted of a number of sex offences in 2018. Cosby began his career as a stand-up comic at the hungry in San Francisco during the 1960s.

Stevie Wonder

Stevland Hardaway Morris, known professionally as Stevie Wonder, is an American singer, songwriter, musician and record producer. Wonder is credited as a pioneer and influence to musicians across genres such as rhythm and blues, pop, soul, gospel, funk, and jazz.

Kunal Nayyar

Kunal Nayyar is a British-Indian actor. He is known for portraying Rajesh Koothrappali on the sitcom The Big Bang Theory. Forbes listed Nayyar as the world's third-highest-paid TV actor in 2015 and 2018, with earnings of US$20 million and US$23.5 million, respectively.

Luis Fonsi & Despacito

Quiero respirar tu cuello despacito
Deja que te diga cosas al oído
Para que te acuerdes si no estás conmigo
Despacito
Quiero desnudarte a besos despacito
Firmar las paredes de tu laberinto
Y hacer de tu cuerpo todo un manuscrito

Anna Gunn - Skyler

Anna Gunn is an American actress. She is best known for her role as Skyler White on the AMC drama series Breaking Bad, for which she won the Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Supporting Actress in a Drama Series in 2013 and 2014, Jean Ward in The Practice, and Martha Bullock in Deadwood.

Betty Boop

Betty Boop is an animated cartoon character created by Max Fleischer, with help from animators including Grim Natwick. She originally appeared in the Talkartoon and Betty Boop film series, which were produced by Fleischer Studios and released by Paramount Pictures.

Puss in Boots

Puss in Boots is a main character in the Shrek franchise, also being portrayed as the title character and protagonist of the film Puss in Boots. He made his first appearance in the film Shrek 2, soon becoming Shrek's partner and helper.

Salma Hayek

Salma Hayek Pinault is a Mexican and American film actress and producer. She began her career in Mexico starring in the telenovela Teresa and starred in the film El Callejón de los Milagros for which she was nominated for an Ariel Award.

 

Antonio & Desperado

Academy Award and five time Golden Globes winner, Antonio Banderas, is a Spanish actor, singer, film producer and director. As El Marachi in Desperado 1995 an American neo-Western action film which was written, produced, and directed by Robert Rodriguez and second part of Rodriguez's Mexico Trilogy, seeking revenge on the drug lord who killed his lover.

Javier Bardem

Javier Ángel Encinas Bardem is a Spanish actor. Bardem won the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actor for his role as the psychopathic assassin Anton Chigurh in the 2007 Coen brothers film No Country for Old Men.

 

Orlando Bloom

Orlando Jonathan Blanchard Copeland Bloom is an English actor. He made his breakthrough as the character Legolas in The Lord of the Rings film series, a role he reprised in The Hobbit film series.

 

Samwise Gamgee

Samwise "Sam" Gamgee is a fictional character in J. R. R. Tolkien's Middle-earth. A hobbit, Samwise is the chief supporting character of The Lord of the Rings, serving as the sidekick of the protagonist Frodo Baggins.

Rubeus Hagrid

Rubeus Hagrid is a fictional character in the Harry Potter book series written by J. K. Rowling. He is introduced in Harry Potter and the Philosopher's Stone as a half-giant and half-human who is the gamekeeper and Keeper of Keys and Grounds of Hogwarts, the primary setting for the first six novels.

Santa Claus

Santa Claus, also known as Father Christmas, Saint Nicholas, Saint Nick, Kris Kringle, or simply Santa, is a legendary character originating in Western Christian culture who is said to bring gifts on Christmas Eve of toys and candy to well-behaved children, and either coal or nothing to naughty children.

Mr Rogers

Fred McFeely Rogers, also known as Mister Rogers, was an American television host, author, producer, and Presbyterian minister. He was the creator, show runner, and host of the preschool television series Mister Rogers' Neighbourhood, which ran from 1968 to 2001.

Desmond Tutu

Desmond Mpilo Tutu OMSG CH GCStJ is a South African Anglican cleric and theologian, known for his work as an anti-apartheid and human rights activist.

Byron Katie

The Work of Byron Katie - not only do we remain alert to our stressful thoughts—the ones that cause all the anger, sadness, and frustration we question them, and through that questioning the thoughts lose their power over us. Great spiritual texts describe what it means to be free. The Work is the how showing you exactly how to identify and question any thought that would keep you from that freedom.

Sabrina Ciaciura

Workshop co-facilitator and sincere practitioner of the Enneagram and A Course in Miracles  by Jesus.

https://www.facebook.com/sabrinaciaciura

UNICEF

UNICEF, also greatly known as the United Nations International Children's Emergency Fund, is a United Nations agency responsible for providing humanitarian and developmental aid to children worldwide.

Mother Teresa

Born in Macedonia in the early 1900's and went to India in the 1950's the founder of the Missionaries of Charity and a Roman Catholic religious congregation of 4,500 nuns and was active in 133 countries in 2012.

Members take vows of chastity, poverty and obedience and profess a vow- to give "wholehearted free service to the poorest of the poor".

It is unknown at which point she sold out and used these services in the trafficking of desperate innocent children.

Missionaries

missionary is a member of a religious group sent into an area to promote their faith or perform ministries of service, such as education, literacy, social justice, health care and economic development.

Midwifery

A midwife is a health professional who cares for mothers and newborns around childbirth, a specialisation known as midwifery. The education and training for a midwife is similar to that of a nurse, in contrast to obstetricians and perinatologists who are physicians.

Care Giving

Care Giving - the activity or profession of regularly looking after a child or a sick, elderly, or disabled person.
"caregiving is filled with rewards and joy, but it can also be overwhelming and exhausting"

True Charity

Diana Princess of Wales was the patron and president to multiple charities throughout her life, in which many of the organisations focused on AIDS awareness and prevention, banning the use of landmines, battling poverty and homelessness, various cancer trusts, Leprosy, as well as opening up the stigma surrounding mental illness.

Bali

Bali is an Indonesian island known for its forested volcanic mountains, iconic rice paddies, beaches and coral reefs. The island is home to religious sites such as cliffside Uluwatu Temple. To the south, the beachside city of Kuta has lively bars, while Seminyak, Sanur and Nusa Dua are popular resort towns. The island is also known for its yoga and meditation retreats.

Thai Culture

Modern Thai Culture is type 2. The culture of Thailand has evolved greatly over time, from its relative isolation during the Sukhothai era, to its more contemporary Ayutthaya era, which absorbed influences from all over Asia. ... Buddhism, Animism and Westernisation also play a significant role in shaping the modern cultures.

Amma - the Mother of Hugs and Compassion

A Hindu guru known as the hugging saint who has hugged more than 37 million people worldwide, and runs a massive charity from Kerala in India - is a big deal. She's hugged more than 37 million people world wide from Sting to leapers.

Amma runs a massive charity in Kerala in India and has been known to hug for 17 hours straight without food and water.

Buddha on Netflix

Siddhartha Gautama is born the heir to a kingdom in the Himalayas. But a prophecy predicts he will choose to embrace a life of spirituality instead.

Yoganana

Paramahansa Yogananda was an Indian monk, yogi and guru who introduced millions to the teachings of meditation and Kriya Yoga through his organization Self-Realization Fellowship / Yogoda Satsanga Society of India, and who lived his last 32 years in America.

The Princess & the Papparazzi

9pm on 3 March, 1994, and paparazzi photographers Mark Saunders and Glenn Harvey wanted  to photograph the most famous woman in the world: Princess Diana. Spotted driving into the Chelsea Harbour with an unidentified male companion were racing to the complex where Saunders gained access and thus a timely death unfolded.

Loving Kindness

The act of loving kindness is a tenderness and consideration towards others with the idealisation of "I am helpful" and the talking style of "giving advice". People are always telling the two's about their problems and thus they are able to establish rapport with others and enter into their world.

Tenderness of Loving Kindness

The characteristics of loving kindness can easily be detected and felt from the type two and leaves one feeling that they have been considered very tenderly.

Conditional Giving

The act of giving is not always unconditional. Type twos can be so invested in being seen as kind that their act of gift giving does indeed have a price when one becomes entangled with a two who is not aware of this tendency nor worked internally may possess this quality.

Burn out

The generation of up until the time of the millennials in mothering in the West is considered by Enneagram people as the time of toxic two where burn out for mothers was common practise. I'm not sure this has changed much.

Emotional Wave

Like all of the image points there is an emotional undercurrent in everything they do. Type two is an externalised image point and this emotional wave can be more easily detected in their dealings.

Fish Hook

The movement or action of loving kindness is a tenderness and consideration towards others. But with this identification comes the idealisation of "I am helpful". When type two doesn't feel like they have been adequately the undercurrent of a conditional hook can be detected through pride and sulkiness very similar to the experience of being emotionally  hooked like a fish.

The pull of emotional density

Like type four, type two possess an emotional density that can pull others into an emotional swamp should one fails to recognise their acts of kindness which first comes as manipulation followed by a sulkiness until their energy shifts and again they realign to offering charitable acts of loving kindness.

Stomach

The stomach is a muscular organ located on the left side of the upper abdomen. The stomach receives food from the esophagus. As food reaches the end of the esophagus, it enters the stomach through a muscular valve called the lower esophageal sphincter. The stomach secretes acid and enzymes that digest food. This organ represents the type two feeling and digestion.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness ends all suffering and loss. It is through the power of understanding what  forgiveness really is and being willing to heal from grievances, which is rises from the tendency of not feeling seen or appreciated by others for the type two.

Forgiveness Mandala

The only way to clear the emotional out density is through the power of forgiveness and humility.

Humility

Humility is the only antidote to pacifying and thinning out the pride of the two and a quality that an evolved type two knows well.

Goddess Sati Parvati

Sati and Parvati, successively play the role of bringing Shiva away from ascetic isolation into creative participation with the world.

Mother Mary

A 1st century Galilean Jewish woman of Nazareth, the wife of Joseph and the mother of Jesus, according to the canonical gospels and the Quran. According to Christian theology, Mary conceived Jesus through the Holy Spirit while still a virgin, and accompanied Joseph to Bethlehem, where Jesus was born.

Jesus

Jesus is the Son of God and in mainstream Christian denominations and the second person in the Trinity believed to be the Jewish messiah (the Christ) who is prophesied in the Hebrew Bible and the the Old Testament. Jesus' name in Hebrew is “Yeshua” which translates to English as Joshua. This image represents the characteristics of type two.

Quan Yin

Quan Yin (Kuan Yin or Guan Yin) is the bodhisattva of great compassion. ... Quan Yin is a gender-fluid symbol, as she is the feminine version of the masculine Avalokiteshvara (Chenezig in Tibetan). She has many different incarnations and is often portrayed seated or standing holding a lotus flower or a vase of water

Yashoda and Baby Krishna

Devoted Mother Yashoda (sanskrit: Yaśodā; devanagari: यशोदा), also spelt as Yasodha, is the foster-mother of Krishna and wife of Nanda.

Radha Krishna

Radha Krishna are the combined form of feminine and masculine aspects of realities of God and his pleasure potency.

2- Click into the Caretaker

The essence of the 2 is Kindness which born into a body runs a basic fear of being unworthy of being loved.

The essence of kindness has been constricted and so the desire to be loved when depleted turns to the need to be needed.

It thus is run on the passion of pride or pride of ones own virtue. This is the inability or unwillingness to acknowledge one's suffering and thus deny their own needs in the pursuit of helping others.

The chief feature therefore becomes flattery. The way into the Self and to dissolve the suffering is through the holy idea of freedom or free will on the holy path of humility

Holy Idea: Freedom

Holy Path: Humility

Chief feature: Flattery

Passion: Pride

Idealisation: I am helpful

Talking style: Giving advice

Trap: Will

Defence Mechanism: Repression

Avoidance: Needs

Dichotomy: Militant/Libertine

Subtypes: Self Preservation – Me first

Social – Ambition

Sexual – Aggression/Seduction

These are the positive-outlook types who have difficulty by adopting a positive attitude, re-framing disappointments in an optimistic light with emphasis towards the bright and uplifting. They build morale and enjoy helping others feel good so they too can feel good.

It is difficult for them to face the dark side of themselves or anything painful, and they have trouble balancing their own needs with that of others, focusing more upon others.  

The Sexy Seducer – For You My Beloved

A sensual, seductive, caring lover who makes it all about you, while hoping secretly that you will reciprocate.

Perfectionist, conservative, controlled lover, enjoying same sex routines and daring to be wild outside of their familiar environment. A rigid outlook in sex results in covert behavior.

Sex is conditional on them being caring and earning sex by doing whatever it is they believe will please their partner. I know what you enjoy.

Wing One and Three and stretch/release points Four and Eight can all relate.

Love Type: Maternal – carers and nurturers – priding themselves on love being about the other, rather than themselves.

Relationship Belief: I am a loving and caring partner.

Sexual Frustration: I am always the one giving in the relationship and my focus on my partner's pleasures and orgasm is seldom reciprocated or even appreciated.

By Ann Gadd

In relationship, these types are compliant and have a need to be in service to others. They seek to obey the rules and meet the demands and expectations of their environment, and even if only subtle they tend to become the authority figures possessing a sense of being better than others.

Dichotomy is militant/libertine

In childhood, the soul was forced to shut down and believe that to have your own needs was not okay. To compensate for this the idealisation then became: I am helpful. 

They have a positive outlook by projecting supportive, optimistic imagery to demonstrate that they are both caring and loving. They focus on good intentions.

They tend to avoid their own neediness, disappointments and anger and instead will overemphasize the needs of others. 

Workbook Lesson 62 of "A Course in Miracles" Jesus 

Forgiveness is my function as the light of the world.

It is your forgiveness that will bring the world of darkness to the light. It is your forgiveness that lets you recognise the light in which you see. Forgiveness is the demonstration that you are the light of the world. Through your forgiveness does the truth about yourself return to your memory. Therefore, in your forgiveness lies your salvation.

Illusions about yourself and the world are one. That is why all forgiveness is a gift to yourself. Your goal is to find out who you are, having denied your Identity by attacking creation and its Creator. Now you are learning how to remember the truth. For this attack must be replaced by forgiveness, so that thoughts of life may replace thoughts of death.

Remember that in every attack you call upon your own weakness, while each time you forgive you call upon the strength of Christ in you. Do you not then begin to understand what forgiveness will do for you? It will remove all sense of weakness, strain and fatigue from your mind. It will take away all fear and guilt and pain. It will restore the invulnerability and power God gave His Son to your awareness.

Let us be glad to begin and end this day by practicing today's idea, and to use it as frequently as possible throughout the day. It will help to make the day as happy for you as God wants you to be. And it will help those around you, as well as those who seem to be far away in space and time, to share this happiness with you.

As often as you can, closing your eyes if possible, say to yourself today:

Forgiveness is my function as the light of the world.
I would fulfil my function that I may be happy.

Then devote a minute or two to considering your function and the happiness and release it will bring you. Let related thoughts come freely, for your heart will recognise these words, and in your mind is the awareness they are true. Should your attention wander, repeat the idea and add:

I would remember this because I want to be happy.

2 - A Deeper Look into the Caretaker

Type Two has been called The "Helper”, “Caregiver”, or “Parent”. They are genuinely helpful to others, but when less healthy they are highly invested in seeing themselves as being seen as helpful. They serve with genuine care, love, goodness, and devotion because it warms their heart and makes them feel worthwhile. They serve others with their immense appreciation, their compassion, and by helping others to see the positive qualities in themselves.

Two is the externalized version of the point Three. All image points suffer from a lack of self-worth which comes from a belief that they cannot be loved simply for being themselves. While the Three develops the strategy of attempting to be loved by what is produced, Twos want to be loved for their helpfulness. When in balance, the genuine love, support, generosity, and consideration of the Two enlivens and warms the hearts of everyone around them.

As helpers, codependents, overworking mothers and wives, they invest in being seen and seeing themselves as helpful. They render self-sacrificing service with a glowing heart and infinite patience. They role model how to enrich and deepen connection.

You will find Twos working in charities, welfare groups and worthwhile administrative affairs. Going out of their way for others fulfills their survival need and makes them feel like life has a rich meaning. They are most interested in the feel-good things of life such as love, generosity, closeness, sharing, family, and friendship. However, this care and service is generated from a feeling of a deep sense of low self-worth. The attempt to gain love and improve their fragile self-esteem by taking care of others is the motivation.

While playing strategy of being the perfect super-mum, carer, wife, or secretary they constantly deny their own needs. It is rare for them to have the energy or interest to take care of themselves in favour of fixing a gourmet candle lit meal for a lover or a family feast. When left alone they can forget eating all together.

While serving others with genuine care they are simultaneously painfully aware that no one is loving them to the level they extend to others.

In exchange for services rendered and making others feel better, an extraction process for self-worth takes hold a bit like a form of prostitution. This makes them the most overlooked, as everyone enjoys being taken care of; yet underneath the light, goodness and sweetness is a stainless steel interior. No one can make it up to the Two and what they have done for you because no one is able to care like they do. Being painfully aware of this fact they are the most dependent of all the types.

Sonja Watson Sunaina and extracts from the Enneagram Institute

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